These posts really are some of my favorite.. Marriage is such a big deal to me and I have really strong feelings about working on marriage and striving to keep the romance and love going. We’ve always wanted to keep things real and be honest about life on our blog and even social media, so today I’m going to tell you about how I failed as a wife this past month.
When Logan and I were dating (or first married, I honestly don’t remember), I made him a coupon book to use, thinking he would use them all pretty quickly, but he didn’t. He’s still got a bunch of them that he randomly pulls out twice a year. I can’t even remember what they all are for anymore- each time he pulls one out, it’s a surprise as to what it will be. Over the last month and a half, Logan has been running around like crazy and his life has been busy and packed, but one day he handed me a coupon that said a list of 10 reasons I love you. I smiled as he handed it to me, because I knew this would be so easy to write and I would just do it the next day along with my other to-do’s. But the next day I didn’t make time for it. The day after that, I put it on my to do list and left that little coupon just sitting right there by my keyboard. I looked at that coupon and added it to my to do list for a month. Each night as Logan came home, tired from working on projects and so much homework, I would look him in the eyes and say I just didn’t have time to finish that list. I’m sure he got tired of hearing that. The problem with me saying that to Logan is that I did have time, but I spent that time mindlessly scrolling through Instagram and Facebook. It wasn’t that I couldn’t come up with 10 reasons I love this guy, because that would be a big lie. There are SO many reasons I love him, but I just didn’t take the time to write down 10 for him to read and give him a little pick me up on those long days.
It took me a whole month to finally take the time, which wasn’t very long, to sit down and write the list of 10 reasons I love Logan. Don’t worry, I made that note way better than a bullet point list of 10 reasons, but still, it took a month. A MONTH… I’m still kicking myself for it, because the ONLY reason that note did not get done was because I did not make Logan a priority. I chose to spend time looking through pretty Instagram feeds instead of writing Logan a little note to let him know how loved he is. I chose to put other things ahead of him, things that did not and still don’t matter. The day that I sat down and wrote it all down, I put that as my number one to do. That was something I had to get done that day. Logan became my number priority that day. I cannot remember the things I looked at on Instagram or Facebook on those days that I could have been writing that list, but I do remember the day I gave him that list and the way he reacted. I remember the way his face broke into a smile seeing that list.
Today, tomorrow, or sometime this month, choose to make your spouse a priority. Find something you can do for them and put it above everything else that day. Make your spouse your #1 priority for a day and see what a difference that makes. Maybe write them a love note of 10 reasons why you love them or take the time to make them their favorite treat to surprise them when they come home. Take my word for it, you don’t want this guilt in your heart and mind, knowing that you put things that didn’t matter ahead of your spouse.
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